How a daughter was raised and decided to share
My Dad always *sounds* it in my ears "Simi, you must be *tough.* Being *girlish* and being *ladylike* is not an excuse for *weakness".* This he still says to me and my sisters till this very day.
All the children were *raised* to do the *"masculine"* as well as the *"feminine"* tasks.
My sisters and I started *winding* a 15KVA generator as soon as we got one. I *learnt* how to wash a *car* (internal and external) before the *age of 16*.
I started *learning driving* immediately after *secondary* school. My Dad told me that before he allows me drive out *independently,* that I must learn to change *car tyres.*
I remember I was forming *ajebutter* and my Dad said to me "If you are *driving* on a lonely *highway* and you need to change your *tyre*, what would you do? You will have to get down and change it.... that's the *common sense* thing to do. It's a *survival skill* for drivers.
He started *washing* the dishes as soon as he could reach the sink and *handle* the dishes.
He started cooking *simple meals* before the *age of 10.* He started *washing* his socks and under wears before the *age of 7.*
He started *handling his laundry* before the *age of 11*, when he had to go to *boarding* school.
In my house, the rule was (still is) that *anyone who eats* must be able to get *involved in the kitchen*, when required.
My father tells me I can be *president,* not *first lady.* There is nothing wrong with being a first lady, but there's also nothing wrong with being the *husband* of the president.
Thus, if you tell your *son* that he can be president, you should also tell your *daughter* that she can be president.
The *hidden but significant psychology* behind this is that telling your daughter that she can be president pushes her to be *great,*
*_while telling her that she can be a_*
pushes her to aspire to marry a *great man,*
and probably *reduces* the needed inspiration to aspire to exercise her maximum potentials.
We need not *teach our girls* to believe that the best they can be is to *exist under the success of a man,* their husbands.
It is *disfavor* to *humanity* to raise your son with the *impression* that he is better than other females..
Raise your daughters to understand that they are not *inferior to males.*
Teach your sons to be as *domesticated* as your daughters,
_and push your daughters
*attain financial independence*
as much as you push your sons.
This way, we will raise a *less entitled*:
and *more responsible* generation,
*equipped* with all vital survival skills,
and with less *handicaps.*
*Charity* begins at *home*, not in the *offices* or *work places.*